Well, I initiated contact with my sister, A. I sent her a message on MySpace. She seems much more into contact. We’ve already sent three or four messages back and forth. Maybe she can be the one to help connect me and R (my brother.) Hopefully, we can all have a good relationship one day.
I don’t really know how I feel. It’s odd, seeing somebody with my chin. My mom almost fell on the floor when she saw A. She said, that is definitely your sister.
I don’t have much else to write at this time. Except, I’m thrilled!
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Friday, June 13, 2008
Contact
Okay, we left off that she would call me back later in the evening....
Well, that didn't happen! She called 10 minutes later! :)
"Hello, is Lilly there?"
Wow, that voice. She sounds like me.
"This is her," I said nervously.
"This is S, I have worried about you, and prayed about you, and wondered where you were for the past 25 years," came a voice at the other end that you could tell was trying to hold back tears.
"Well, 25 years tomorrow," she said.
Wow.. it was amazing that she remembered my birthday!
That's most of what I can remember from that initial conversation. Most of it was just a blur. I asked her about if I had any brothers and sisters. She said she must have been a rabbit in a past life, because including me she had 7. To me this is amazing, I only have one sister. She gave me their names and ages. We talked for quite awhile. She asked if I still had brown hair and green eyes, and I said yes. I asked her what she looked like and what J looked like. She told me. They both had brown hair. They were both shorter people. That made me thrilled!
We talked about what she would have named me if she were able to keep me. She said Danielle. That's a very pretty name! :).
She said she always wanted to find me, but she was worried that I would hate her. Why would I hate her? She gave me up for all the right reasons. She didn't do it for selfish reasons, she did it because she knew she couldn't take care of me properly at the time, and I must admit, I've had a great life.
It is so surreal from the point of an adoptee. In the course of one phone call, your life is completely different. Surreal is the only word for it.
I finally also found out something I've alway wanted to know, my ethnic background. I'm Cherokee Indian, Irish, Scottish, British, and a little German.
I sent her my myspace and she said that I looked like J's side of the family in my face, and that I had her nose, and high cheekbones!
We are planning on meeting a week from this Monday. I will talk to her more in the meantime, and I will keep everyone updated as to how it goes! :)
Oh one more thing, I get my musical talent from J as well. She said that she initially fell in love with his music. He used to travel around the country in the summer to go play his music.
Well, that didn't happen! She called 10 minutes later! :)
"Hello, is Lilly there?"
Wow, that voice. She sounds like me.
"This is her," I said nervously.
"This is S, I have worried about you, and prayed about you, and wondered where you were for the past 25 years," came a voice at the other end that you could tell was trying to hold back tears.
"Well, 25 years tomorrow," she said.
Wow.. it was amazing that she remembered my birthday!
That's most of what I can remember from that initial conversation. Most of it was just a blur. I asked her about if I had any brothers and sisters. She said she must have been a rabbit in a past life, because including me she had 7. To me this is amazing, I only have one sister. She gave me their names and ages. We talked for quite awhile. She asked if I still had brown hair and green eyes, and I said yes. I asked her what she looked like and what J looked like. She told me. They both had brown hair. They were both shorter people. That made me thrilled!
We talked about what she would have named me if she were able to keep me. She said Danielle. That's a very pretty name! :).
She said she always wanted to find me, but she was worried that I would hate her. Why would I hate her? She gave me up for all the right reasons. She didn't do it for selfish reasons, she did it because she knew she couldn't take care of me properly at the time, and I must admit, I've had a great life.
It is so surreal from the point of an adoptee. In the course of one phone call, your life is completely different. Surreal is the only word for it.
I finally also found out something I've alway wanted to know, my ethnic background. I'm Cherokee Indian, Irish, Scottish, British, and a little German.
I sent her my myspace and she said that I looked like J's side of the family in my face, and that I had her nose, and high cheekbones!
We are planning on meeting a week from this Monday. I will talk to her more in the meantime, and I will keep everyone updated as to how it goes! :)
Oh one more thing, I get my musical talent from J as well. She said that she initially fell in love with his music. He used to travel around the country in the summer to go play his music.
One E-mail and Twelve Hours Can Change Your Life
Welcome back,
We're going to skip ahead to 2008.
June 10, 2008 -
I decided I needed to update my profile information on G's registry. www.gsadoptionregistry.com
I needed to change my e-mail in case a search angel wanted to get in touch with me. I went ahead and sent in my e-mail and they sent one back having me approve all of my information.
Not too long after that I got an e-mail from a search angel. It had the exact information for this one woman that they always sent. No phone numbers were in working order, and it was never her. The search angel asked me to let her know if I found her. I sent back a reply saying that I hadn't, and I went on about my normal daily things.
June 11, 2008 -
I checked my e-mail and the search angel had sent me a letter saying that there was bad weather in her area and when it calmed down she would go ahead and send me something. I didn't want to get my hopes up so I just kept saying yeah right... No way..... Let it go.
June 11-12, 2008 (middle of the night) -
Normal night, just like any other, I couldn't sleep. I had gone to all my normal sites and I decided to check my e-mail. It was around 1am on the 12th. I opened up my e-mail and found another letter from my search angel. She had found the marriage license for J and S (birth mother's name for now.) My heart started to race. The marriage license had an address on it. She did a search of the address, and found my birth grandparents were living there at the time of marriage. She figured that this was the best way to find S. There were so many phone numbers. I decided to wait until the next day to start the lengthy process of dialing numbers as it was in the middle of the night.
June 12, 2008 (afternoon) -
I opened up my e-mail and looked at the list. There were quite a few numbers on there, and quite a few names. I decided to try the number on the very top. Wrong number. For some reason, in my gut, I felt that the tiny number near the middle had to be it. I picked up my phone, and my heart started to race. I dialed the number. There was a voice at the other end.
"Hello," He said
"Hello, is H (name for my birth grandfather for now) there?"
"Yes this is him,"
"H G?"
"Yes."
"I know this is an odd question, but do you have a daughter named S?"
"Yes I do," He said.
Oh my how my heart began to race right there. I started shaking, and I was trying to hold back tears. You can't understand me talking when I'm crying. On to the next question!
"Was she married to a man named J in 1980?"
"Yes she was, who is this?" H asked.
"Well, this may come as a complete shock and surprise, and I'm very sorry, but I think you are my biological grandfather."
Complete silence for a minute.
"My name is Lilly"
I'm going to go by the name of Lilly for now.
"I was put up for adoption by S and J in 1983."
At this time, H put his wife M on the phone.
She asked for my name and my phone number and when I was adopted. She said that she knew why I was calling and to calm down. She would call S and give her my number, but she said S was at work and not to expect anything until the evening. I told her thank you... Thank you and I was crying. She told me to calm down it would be okay and to have a nice day.
Wow..... talk about freaking out! I had found her!
We're going to skip ahead to 2008.
June 10, 2008 -
I decided I needed to update my profile information on G's registry. www.gsadoptionregistry.com
I needed to change my e-mail in case a search angel wanted to get in touch with me. I went ahead and sent in my e-mail and they sent one back having me approve all of my information.
Not too long after that I got an e-mail from a search angel. It had the exact information for this one woman that they always sent. No phone numbers were in working order, and it was never her. The search angel asked me to let her know if I found her. I sent back a reply saying that I hadn't, and I went on about my normal daily things.
June 11, 2008 -
I checked my e-mail and the search angel had sent me a letter saying that there was bad weather in her area and when it calmed down she would go ahead and send me something. I didn't want to get my hopes up so I just kept saying yeah right... No way..... Let it go.
June 11-12, 2008 (middle of the night) -
Normal night, just like any other, I couldn't sleep. I had gone to all my normal sites and I decided to check my e-mail. It was around 1am on the 12th. I opened up my e-mail and found another letter from my search angel. She had found the marriage license for J and S (birth mother's name for now.) My heart started to race. The marriage license had an address on it. She did a search of the address, and found my birth grandparents were living there at the time of marriage. She figured that this was the best way to find S. There were so many phone numbers. I decided to wait until the next day to start the lengthy process of dialing numbers as it was in the middle of the night.
June 12, 2008 (afternoon) -
I opened up my e-mail and looked at the list. There were quite a few numbers on there, and quite a few names. I decided to try the number on the very top. Wrong number. For some reason, in my gut, I felt that the tiny number near the middle had to be it. I picked up my phone, and my heart started to race. I dialed the number. There was a voice at the other end.
"Hello," He said
"Hello, is H (name for my birth grandfather for now) there?"
"Yes this is him,"
"H G?"
"Yes."
"I know this is an odd question, but do you have a daughter named S?"
"Yes I do," He said.
Oh my how my heart began to race right there. I started shaking, and I was trying to hold back tears. You can't understand me talking when I'm crying. On to the next question!
"Was she married to a man named J in 1980?"
"Yes she was, who is this?" H asked.
"Well, this may come as a complete shock and surprise, and I'm very sorry, but I think you are my biological grandfather."
Complete silence for a minute.
"My name is Lilly"
I'm going to go by the name of Lilly for now.
"I was put up for adoption by S and J in 1983."
At this time, H put his wife M on the phone.
She asked for my name and my phone number and when I was adopted. She said that she knew why I was calling and to calm down. She would call S and give her my number, but she said S was at work and not to expect anything until the evening. I told her thank you... Thank you and I was crying. She told me to calm down it would be okay and to have a nice day.
Wow..... talk about freaking out! I had found her!
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